Too Much Honesty?
Is there such a thing as too much honesty?
Well, in real life, I’d have to say yes. It’s just common sense. There are thoughts which only you should have because to spew them onto an unsuspecting victim may not solve anything. Sometimes these truths are harsh because of something that is intrinsically you. Sometimes, the words in your mind are simply rude and would serve no other purpose than to hurt/insult/demean/etc.
This is not to say that you shouldn’t tell people how you feel and that you should avoid being honest. That is not what I’m saying. I’ve always been a very honest person and sometimes what I say does knock the listener back a touch… but my intentions are never to hurt or insult… and I always choose my words very carefully.
Now that being said, in the last couple days I’ve come across a couple websites that are unbelievably interesting because of the honesty therein.
True Wife Confessions will have any man wondering what his wife or girlfriend would say about him (and I don’t care how good a husband you are, the mind just works that way). I was disappointed initially as all I read were very bitter posts.
Confession #263
Your penis is unusually tiny. Maybe 4 inches? When not erect, I can’t even tell you have one. I can’t feel anything when we have sex. Here’s a big reason for having sex before you get married. Or rather, a SMALL reason. Try before you buy, ladies!
Not to be mistaken by the funny and harsh posts.
Confession #267
My husband is dead set against sex toys. He asks me why I need sex toys if I have him around to satisfy me? I say it’s something fun to add to our sex life. He said it’s either him or the sex toys. So when he goes to work, I get out my hidden collection of sex toys and do myself silly. Maybe my husband does have something to fear. The sex toys are a lot better in bed than him.
Later though, I found some that were actually quite kind and loving.
Confession #266
The fact that you have stayed with me through all of my mental health issues, and have rarely called me crazy out loud, even when you are thinking it in your head? You took “the good with the bad” part of our vows seriously and I am eternally grateful.
And then there were the disturbing posts.
Confession #268
It was just two days after I started the Pill and wasn’t protected against pregnancy yet. I asked my husband to put on a condom before we had sex. He agreed. He leaned over to the nightstand and made a big effort out of opening a condom wrapper and putting it on. When he came, I felt it. I pushed him off me and saw there was no condom. He had MIMED putting on the condom and had hidden the condom under the bed. I demanded to know why. He said, “You’re not gonna get pregnant, so what’s the big deal?” It was the first moment that I felt fear in my heart that I had married the wrong man.
The site works because women feel that the anonymity of the internet allows them to completely let loose with whatever has been bottled up (sometimes for years). I don’t know how many of these are genuine or how many may have been exaggerated for the sake of comedic effect, but you get a sense of honesty from the confessions. You feel as though you’ve found someone’s diary, and despite the fact that you know you shouldn’t read it, you just can’t help yourself.
And then there’s Postsecret, which also succeeds because of the honesty found therein. Just like with True Wife Confessions, Postsecret allows people to write something on a postcard and enjoy the anonymity of the internet.
Postsecret doesn’t have the same punch that True Wife Confessions has, but it still is very interesting to look at all of these postcards and wonder about who wrote them. The images sometimes work very well with the words (sometimes too well for comfort), and this makes it more interesting to read. However overall, the site does not have the same appeal (at least to me), that True Wife Confessions has. Perhaps because I’ve been married for a very long time now and find myself laughing at some of these poor men. There are some of course who sound like they justifiably deserve what is said, and in cases like those, I really do feel for the women involved.
But then I read one of these…
Confession #229
Sometimes I am in awe of how dumb you are....I can’t believe you did not pay the gas bill because you thought it was on automatic draft and
now dumbfuck...we have no gas!!!! You can run an entire empire, but can’t fucking pay the damn gas bill.
I SHOULD LEAVE YOU RIGHT NOW
